074. How to Develop Appropriate and Effective Consequences that Empower Responsibility
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Ever wondered why your usual 'go-to' consequences for the kids seem to have lost their impact? Or maybe you've been struggling to get on the same page as a couple to come up with consequences that you're able to follow through with?
We want our kids to learn self-control and take responsibility for their poor choices. But it feels like we've run out of options to respond with consequences that actually help kids learn.
When Mike and I were stuck there, it took us a while to figure out the secret to discovering appropriate and effective consequences — ones that helped our kids easily connect to their poor behavior and pick up important life lessons.
In this episode, we'll share the 5-step process we've used for years to develop appropriate consequences that are not only effective but have also given us a solid plan we can stand behind as a parenting team!
PLUS…we’ve created a 5-Step Consequence Plan Worksheet that you can download for free to help you create more appropriate and effective consequences:
You'll Discover:
A 5-step process to developing appropriate and effective consequences
Why the usual 'go-to' consequences lose their effectiveness
The difference between punishments and consequences
How creative consequences mirror real life — which helps kids take responsibility for themselves and make better choices
Resources from this Episode:
FREE DOWNLOAD: 5-Step Consequence Plan Worksheet
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Episode 63: 5 Strategies to Help You Get United - Even When You Disagree
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