218. How to Positively Influence Your Kids' Character When Your Ex Undermines Your Values

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If you’ve ever felt like the values you’re trying to instill in your kids get undone the moment they step into the other home, you’re not alone. We’ve been there—and we know how discouraging it can feel.

In this episode, we share a powerful tool we first learned from Ron Deal called the Inoculation Strategy. It’s a simple, practical way to prepare your kids to recognize and resist negative influences—without badmouthing or creating loyalty binds.

We’ll walk you through real-life examples from our own blended family journey, explain how to stay in the “neutral zone” while teaching important lessons, and encourage you to keep planting seeds of character even when it seems like they aren’t taking root.

Over time, your kids will internalize what you've instilled—and those intentional lessons will matter more than you think.

You'll Discover:

  • The “wild card factor” that often fuels conflict between blended family households

  • Two key realities you must accept before using the Inoculation Strategy

  • Practical ways to engage your kids by using movies, books, current events, and personal stories as teaching moments that count

  • How to avoid loyalty binds and protect your child’s wellbeing while guiding them toward positive values, character traits and life skills.

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Mike Anderson

I grew up in difficult stepfamily dynamics.  I have experienced life as a step-child, a step-sibling and a step-parent.  My stepfamily perspective combined with my expertise as a Professional Life Coach uniquely qualifies me to help you move forward in your stepfamily journey.

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