183. What's the difference between "coupleness" and "familyness" and why does it matter?

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Does it ever feel like you have a bit of a double life going?

You have those moments when it's just you and your partner and it feels like all is right with the world…

…but suddenly, when one or both sets of kids enter the scene — everything seems to fall apart!

That's because when it comes to blended families, "coupleness" does NOT necessarily equal "familyness".

This is often a tough reality to accept.  You're deeply in love and excited about building a life together, but it seems that you've got some emotional and relational whiplash as it feels like you're tossed back and forth between two dynamics over and over.

If that strikes a chord, you might want to consider the difference between "coupleness" and "familyness"..  Otherwise disappointment and confusion can quickly set in.

Blending a family is so much more than your couple relationship.  That's why it's important to carefully consider what it takes to build "familyness" and prepare for the road ahead. 

In this episode, we'll explore how to intentionally approach "Familyness" so that you can reduce relational tension and create genuine connection in your home.

You'll Discover:

  • How to avoid the 'easy wrong turns' couples tend to make around building "familyness"

  • Why "coupleness" does not necessarily equal "familyness"

  • Empowering insights and practical strategies to successfully build "familyness"

Resources from this Episode:

 The Smart Stepfamily 

 Preparing to Blend

 Building Love Together in Blended Families

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Mike Anderson

I grew up in difficult stepfamily dynamics.  I have experienced life as a step-child, a step-sibling and a step-parent.  My stepfamily perspective combined with my expertise as a Professional Life Coach uniquely qualifies me to help you move forward in your stepfamily journey.

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